“I
praise loudly, I blame softly.”
The parent-child relationship is cherished
with combination of behaviours, feelings, and expectations that are unique to a
scrupulous parent and a fastidious child. Of the many different relationships
people form over the course of the lifetime, the relationship between parent
and child is among the most important. Parents
of teenagers or preteens should appreciate these typical struggles with fads,
music and other efforts of independence occur in every family. Once they know
that, they can relax more and worry less about how their children are
"turning out". Chances are they will be just fine, and the
challenging teen will grow up to be a dependable adult.
In the premature years of children lives, parents are the most important figures in their world. Their approval, love and support are vital to children. Subsequently, much of what children do and say is aimed at maintaining that love and approval. As children get older and have more contact with people other than their parents, their behaviours and attitudes are predisposed by other people. Teens are trying to become adults. One of their utmost complications is becoming independent while maintaining a loving relationship with parents. The teen's struggle for independence has become a real problem only when it is viewed by the teen and/or parents as a struggle for control. Adolescence may be a time of heightened bickering and diminished closeness in the parent-child relationship, but most disagreements between parents and young teenagers are over less important matters, and most teenagers and parents agree on the essentials. Both parents and teenagers are experiencing change.
There's a growing conviction
among, who work with parents and teens that adult problems contribute equally
with teen problems in making these years difficult between parents and
children. The changing
parent/child relationship is hurdle to cause some problems and stress in all
families. Parents can no longer organize every part of their teen's life, but
they can keep the communication lines open and be a positive example for their
teen to follow. The affection with which mature parents speak of their
relationship with their teens is evidence that the struggle to help and let
children go is well-waged, for only then will they want to come back.
“If a child is to keep his inborn sense of wonder, he
needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering
with him the joy, excitement and mystery of the world we
live in”
- Rachel Carson
- Rachel Carson
